Develop Your Resilience and Thrive

Life is full of challenges, change happens and sometimes it can be very difficult to accept or adapt to. While some people find it very easy to cope with the bumps in the road of life others find it difficult to do so. These individuals can find they are bogged down by their experiences and that they cannot move on from the challenges successfully. If you are finding it difficult to move forward in a positive light it may benefit you to increase your own natural resilience, but how can you achieve this?

What is Resilience and Why Do You Need it?

Resilience is being able to recover from negative experiences in life. Rather than letting your ship sink you bounce back above the waves and settle back down to find an even keel in life. The people who are resilient are not free from any negative emotions; they’re not hard or cold. Fear, sadness, stress and anger are still present in their lives, but they learn to ride through the emotions, accept them and then move on. Without this resilience there is a risk of becoming overwhelmed, depressed and negative.

Is it Possible to Increase Your Resilience?

The good news is there are steps you can take in order to improve your ability to be resilient. While some people are more natural at it than others, that doesn’t mean you stand no hope of overcoming life’s problems in a more positive light. There are certain factors that play a part in how resilient you currently are, which include:

  • Environment
  • Behaviour
  • Beliefs
  • Self esteem
  • Communication
  • Management of emotions
  • Relationships

If you’re able to understand the environmental factors and work on your own emotions and relationships there’s no reason why you can’t become a more positive person. Self-esteem is tied into how confident you are this is necessary as confidence helps people to overcome the challenges they face. Working on your own self-esteem is a great place to start. The next step is to work on building relationships with people around you. That doesn’t need to mean you must have a huge abundance of friends but having one or two outside of your family home who you can turn to can increase your resilience. Friends and mentors are people we trust and having an outlet helps us to be stronger and see challenges in different lights.

Boosting Your Resiliency

If you’re fed up of feeling down and are looking at ways that will teach you how to stop worrying and start living here are some suggestions to point you in the right direction.

Focus on the positive side of life. Write down your positive attributes, the things about yourself that you like and that you admire. Write down the little achievements in life and the big ones. Think about your personality, your career, and your relationships and add any small positive note you can into a notebook.  You might find this hard to do but the more you practice the easier it will be. This exercise will increase your self-esteem. If you combine it by stopping negative thoughts about yourself entering your mind your confidence will soar.

  • Open yourself up to the emotions you’re feeling. It’s never a good idea to close off emotions and ignore them. If you’re feeling sad let yourself cry, it’s okay, it’s a healing process. If you feel happy, angry or sad find healthy channels to experience these emotions in a safe environment. Learn how you react to your emotions and think about how you could work through them differently.
  • Accept that change is a part of life. You will need to become more flexible in order to build up resilience and accept the challenges that will inevitably cross your path.  Teach yourself to look at the positive sides of challenges, the white shining light that is visible behind the clouds. Change doesn’t have to be a bad thing; in fact it can be the best thing to ever happen, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time.
  • Work on your positive thinking but don’t ignore problems. Develop the attitude you have when encountering problems and allow yourself the time to heal and move forward.  Remember that good times will come, even if it’s a struggle right now. There’s plenty to look forward to!

Resilience is an excellent skill that is worth working on in order to improve your mood and life experiences. Being able to accept and overcome challenges will benefit you and everyone around you.

About the author

Helen Draper uses her experiences and psychic abilities to help others to channel positive energy into their lives. She is a strong believer that resilience can be self-taught and is a life skill worth learning.